6 Signs You are Suffering From Burnout Right Now

6 Signs You are Suffering From Burnout Right Now

by | Sep 23, 2020 | Life Balance + Energy Management, Recent

I experienced burnout for the first time when my daughters were tweens. I had spent the past 10 years focused so intensely on their growth, their development, their needs, their passions that I hadn’t really put that same energy into building true thriving foundations for myself.

That was when I realized I needed to make some serious changes — and fast.

But it’s not always easy to stop all the patterns that lead to burnout such as …

  • How we give all of ourselves to others without holding any sense of respect and worthiness for own personal wellness.
  • When we serve others before ourselves repeatedly until we collapse of exhaustion or illness.
  • When we ignore our own basic needs.
  • When we practice bad habits that lead us to a less fulfilling lifestyle.

Women who are also caregivers of parents, partners or children are unable to care for themselves like they should be in order to really feel whole and complete. They are in a survival mode of constant giving and giving and being on for others. Even though a caregiver may make time for self-soothing like a bath or a bit of meditation, this is not an appropriate recovery to truly refuel and recharge.

How do you know if you are suffering from burnout? Here are some of the signs I’ve noticed from my private coaching clients …

  • You feel unmotivated to do anything — especially your own self-care.
  • You feel numb and cannot seem to experience authentic joy.
  • You feel a constant heaviness holding you down, dragging you along that makes it hard to take action.
  • You feel negative and frustrated about many things in your life but you feel powerless to change anything.
  • You feel resentful for any rest or fun your partner or ex-partner has in their life.
  • You feel like you are being swallowed up by constant responsibilities and feel overwhelmed with where to begin to change the pattern.

What does unaddressed burnout do in the long run?

It is easy to blame parenting on your burnout. You just have so much to do and so little time to do it.

However, operating in extreme physical and emotional fatigue is not good for you and it’s not good for your child and family.

Of course you go through the motions and operate on auto-pilot to make sure everything gets done. But your lack of energy for true joy and connection becomes more and more apparent.

This creates a lack of bond and connection with your family. They will pick up on your exhaustion and disinterest as well and act accordingly.

Burnout shows up in your work, too. It shows up in mistakes and an inability to make sound, intentional decisions. And it shows up in how often you end up saying yes to doing things you don’t want to do because you are so busy trying to prove you are enough on the outside because you do not feel enough on the inside.

All of these results of mom burnout can lead to intense feelings of guilt, shame and loneliness.

What can you do about burnout right now?

It’s easy to think that what you need is a rest and certainly good sleep and more time to relax is going to be a great start.

But the only way to really tackle burnout is to create a foundation of true self-care that leads to a greater sense of purpose and meaning in your life. Figuring out what brings you alive so that you can BE YOU, FINALLY again is the secret.

When a new client comes to me facing burnout (or overwhelm, stress or exhaustion) we begin the hard work of digging her out of the rubble of the life that she feels trapped in. Let’s face it, everything we do feels important and it can be really hard to decide what needs to change.

But the truth is that we have to start to figure out where your patterns of resistance, people-pleasing and settling keep showing up.

Once you can reclaim yourself and your energy and start living a more bold, beautiful life you start to feel more whole, more enough.

This self-discovery work that you must do on yourself to figure out what you need, how to make it happen and how to sustain it, pulls back the layers of shoulds, expectations and of lifelong habits that led to your burnout.

Ready to Dig Out of Burnout? My Rise Stronger in 2021 7-Day Challenge walks you through my 6 science-based strategies that absolutely work to lift you up out of the Land of Bitter and Sour and into your own light to shine. Register here. 

3 Powerful Habits to Be More Creative in Your Everyday Life

3 Powerful Habits to Be More Creative in Your Everyday Life

by | Sep 8, 2020 | Creativity + Passions, Recent

As an entrepreneur who thrives on creating experiences for my community and clients, and as a writer, it’s vital that I foster my creativity in my everyday life for my work. It’s a commodity that is something I work to protect and cultivate every single day.

Recently, I was working with a client on her core values and helping her to really define them. She was so surprised to learn that creativity was at the top of her list. She doesn’t consider herself very creative. 

As we talked, I realized she needed to really think about how she can be more creative in her already pretty set-in-its-ways lifestyle as a working mom of young children. 

Ultimately, to be more creative requires an everyday set of practices. This is why the more we write the better and easier it gets. Or the more we paint and create the more prolific we become at it. 

Creativity is a commodity that is absolutely worth investing your time and resources into.

In my small group coaching program, The Energy Boost, we work through the energy leaks that block our good energy for everything in our life that brings joy — such as time and space for more creativity.

Women often think they lack follow through on their creative dreams — like writing a book or doing art — is a time issue. If only they had more time … they think. They get frustrated at their procrastination, their self-doubt, their inability to finish things.

But, there is much more to being creative than having an idea or starting it.

We must have the energy to see it through. 

We must have the confidence to launch it into the world. 

All of this takes … a few good habits. 

Here’s a few of my own favorite habits that help me to be more creative in my everyday life:

The Habit of Energy Management

In order to be more creative in your everyday life secret to a zest-filled, vibrant life is not more time. It’s more energy. Once you learn the habit of managing your energy and boosting your energy, you can do anything. Yes, energy has a lot to do with your physical body but your emotional energy has just as much to do with your energy level as well. In my one of the first coaching sessions I have with new clients, we plan out your energy goals and what you need to do to boost your energy because you can have all the dreams and goals in the world but if you don’t have the energy to make them happen we won’t see much progress. Keeping high energy — and positive energy — flowing all day long is a secret to being authentically creative and more productive. I also lead workshops on energy management for workplaces and groups because keeping a team’s positive energy going is vital for a productive year.

The Habit of Open-Minded Thinking

The glass is half full. Or is it half empty? Instead of looking at a problem as a problem. See it as an opportunity. This is one of the best ways to boost your creativity. It’s easy to get caught up in either/or thinking where problems only have black or white answers. But the truth is that most problems rarely have just black or white answers. Your perspective is what needs to change and being more open will get you there. In my coaching work, I challenge you to look at your struggles and your ideas in different ways so that you can see the bigger picture rather than the one small bit from your limited vantage point. When you learn to see life from an OPEN place, a whole new world of possibilities opens up. 

The Habit of Choosing Courage

Behind every big thing we want to change or do in our lives, there is fear. When we learn to override that fear with courage, we see the changes we want to see happen in our lives. It’s so easy to let fear hold us back. Often we don’t even realize fear is the culprit behind our inaction. But when we get into the courage groove, we start to see how much we’ve been limiting ourselves. Change is hard. And it’s scary. But it’s also amazing and when we finally have the courage to make things happen in our lives we can do even more amazing things. When you start to choose courage over fear you will see big changes in your life. 

Which of these habits can you work to instill in your life this week?