Scarcity Mindset? 3 Gratitude Prompts to Heal Feelings of Not Enough and Cultivate Abundance

Scarcity Mindset? 3 Gratitude Prompts to Heal Feelings of Not Enough and Cultivate Abundance

Scarcity mindset first showed up for me a few years into being a creator and business owner.

I am an accidental, self-taught entrepreneur — which means I didn’t go into business considering the many obstacles I might experience. Nor did I struggle to start up. My business began fast — and at scale, serving hundreds of women within a couple months.

But over the years, as the market shifted, the certainty bottomed out and there were times of ease and flow — and times of struggle and famine.

  • When in flow, life and business was so easy. Effortless.
  • When in famine, life was so hard, and my mental health was affected — more so by scarcity mentality than scarcity itself.

Since my Brave Yes Coaching framework is about saying YES to yourself — and feeling safe to do so — I work with my clients on healing their scarcity mindset and working on correcting any “scarcity holes” in their business and life.

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What is scarcity — and why is it so prevalent?

Scarcity is a belief that we are all here to compete for limited or scarce resources and that there is not enough to go around for everyone.

Scarcity mindset or mentality is when you become overly obsessed on something feel you do not have enough of in your life. When in this state you struggle to enjoy life because you are so obsessed with what is lacking.

This creates a survival mode and desperate approach to being in this world. Just look at the more is more culture that the corporate world operates under to see the grips of scarcity and how it works.

All you have to do is see the lines outside a business offering limited availability of a product to see how scarcity creates hysteria.

True Scarcity is when there isn’t enough to go around and we have to fight for what we need or want. It’s a feeling or state that means we do not have all that we need — or want. This is rooted in the present. If you aren’t sure how you will pay your rent, money truly is scarce.

Scarcity mindset is a perception that you won’t have enough and it’s often rooted in fear of losing it all or comparisons with others who appear to have more. It’s more based in the future.

Are we ever really doing enough? 

Do we ever get to the end of our workload? 

And since our livelihoods — especially if you have a business or do work in a company — depend on the outcomes of our output it’s really easy to get bogged down in what we haven’t yet acquired and our lack.

There are a few types of scarcity that I have noticed with my clients over the years:

  • Scarcity of money
  • Scarcity of resources
  • Scarcity of time
  • Scarcity of power
  • Scarcity of belonging/support
  • Scarcity of motivation

It’s normal to feel these areas of lack or not enough sometimes.

“Most people — the average human being — doesn’t realize the power of these types of scarcity driving their daily lives and their every action, thought and feeling.”

SHAWN FINK

There are a lot of people awakening to these daily drivers — but who are teaching methods to gloss over them rather than to heal them and work through them so they don’t take over.

Scarcity Mindset? 3 Gratitude Prompts to Heal Feelings of Not Enough and Cultivate Abundance

The Spiritual bypassing of True Scarcity

With more and more people feeling determined to become millionaires and to work freely anywhere in the world, there has been a ton of spiritual bypassing happening around true scarcity and feelings of scarcity mentality.

Some spiritual and business mindset gurus tell you that if you want to get YOUR piece of all those scarce resources all you need to do is adopt an abundance mindset and manifest.

In fact, they will tell you that if you want more, more, more you just need to give yourself some mantras or affirmations and will your desires into fruition. along with not enoughness is so prevalent in our society. 

Make a vision board!

Manifest!

I call BS.

I do believe in the Law of Attraction but I also believe that marginalized populations of our society can’t manifest their way through racism, sexism, oppression and being trapped in the broken systems of navigating poverty.

Scarcity is a very real thing for many perfectly wonderful people and it must be dealt with effectively — not glossed over.

“For many people the thrill of having more is intensified by the presence of those who have less. Waste is not the issue here. To many greedy individuals, power lies in withholding resources.”

bell hooks

There are many people in our communities who truly are unable to get their needs met because they are a person of color, LGBTQIA+, indigenous or a woman or because they are not educated enough, because they have mental health obstacles, and many other factors etc..

So if you are a privileged person does that mean you can’t experience scarcity?

Sometimes scarcity is real. Sometimes, though, it’s an illusion.

Regardless, the solutions are always, in my work, taking intentional, aligned actions.

My former longtime business was called Abundant Mama and my work was very much rooted in abundance work because I believe abundance work could change this world for the better. The work is not mindset work — it’s intentional and algined actions toward healing scarcity and feelings of scarcity.

Imagine if everyone felt safe, taken care of and as if we all have our needs met — always.

Since realizing from doing my own work on racial justice that “abundance mindset” is based in white privilege I do not promote it — but rather coach and mentor women through building their own abundance toolbox — actions YOU take that lead you toward feeling more safe, more trusting, more secure and more confident.

The Way Through is Through

Sometimes scarcity is real — even for the dominant culture.

To heal scarcity in my work with ALL women, we first get super present with the facts of your personal situation. My coaching offers safe space for you to share personal and confidential information that you might otherwise feel scared to share.

Sometimes scarcity is healed through real conversations where you get to be heard and seen — and valued. It’s amazing how much we bottle up inside.

You can suffer from scarcity if you are seriously are worried you are not able to pay yourself or your bills — or if you are legitimately worried about where the money will come from.

However, the work is always — whether rooted in fact or fiction — about taking aligned and intentional actions for mindful progress. I would never suggest a client “mindset” her way out of money problems and money fears.

There’s action and inaction. AND, since I work in soul alignment as well, there is some level of trust work that needs to always happen when we’re thinking about money and resources that we need.

So for me abundance begets abundance and so I practice taking actions that lead to more abundance.

When scarcity does show up for me — I dig deeper for the truth. In my case, there’s always been a legitimate fear at the root not just my mind playing tricks.

And then I take action to address the root issue.

In my GRIT coaching model, the aligned actions we work with around scarcity is based on the following themes:

  • Growth Mindset 
  • Realigning with the Present
  • Implementing Trust
  • Thriving Toward Positivity

Gratitude falls under thriving toward positivity since it’s a cornerstone positive emotion — but there are many more ways to actively cultivate positive energy.

Gratitude is often the first place we begin because it’s such an accessible practice that most know about.

How to Start a Meaningful Gratitude Practice

Gratitude is a cornerstone positive emotion and antidote to scarcity mindset

It’s hard to feel lack when you are focused on all that you have and all that is going well.

It’s hard to feel angry when you are feeling grateful.

Cultivating true feelings of gratitude requires intentional actions — not just rote reciting of random things like we hear around the Thanksgiving dinner table.

When I tossed all faith to the universe and quit my 9 to 5, we had managed to have about 6 months of income saved up. We gave it that long to make the dream happen. If it didn’t work, I would go back to get a real job. Thankfully that never was needed as Abundant Mama did well instantly. But it wasn’t always easy. 

That’s where my daily gratitude practice — going strong for 11 years and soon to be 12 — truly became a foundation for myself, my mental health and my work.

Why is Gratitude so powerful — what does the science say?

Putting a deep focus on what you value, what is good and what is working improves your wellbeing — giving you the capacity and clarity to focus on getting what else you need or want.

This is one of the many powers of gratitude.

When I started my gratitude journaling 11 years ago, I never dreamed I would stick with it this long.

But the truth is that I have found nothing but positive energy from. the practice. A big part of my success is in being consistently motivated and moving forward in my life and work. Gratitude is a key part of my self-care.

When we have positive feelings inside of us, have the energy and the capacity to do challenging things or to navigate through tough situations.

The practice for me is to write in my journal — sometimes 3 things. Sometimes two pages.

And while many have told me they find gratitude journaling rote — and they get tired of writing the same things over and over, I have a natural ability to find the gold in my day to write about so that it’s hardly the same.

I’ve been coaching women through this practice for a decade and offered a lot prompts over the years. However, today I am focused on the standpoint of scarcity.

Scarcity Mindset? 3 Gratitude Prompts to Heal Feelings of Not Enough and Cultivate Abundance

Gratitude journaling can get boring if you don’t know how to elicit the root of the gratitude itself — which is why I try and give my clients new prompts all the time.

These are designed just to help you work through feelings of scarcity.

  • What can I be grateful for right now that always keeps me safe and protected?
  • Who can I show gratitude to for always being there for me?
  • What strengths of mine am I grateful for right now that have gotten me this far?

What part of this post lands for you? Take time to notice and journal.

In a Creative Rut? You Might be in a Season of Stagnation

In a Creative Rut? You Might be in a Season of Stagnation

“A woman must be willing to burn hot, burn with passion, burn with words, with ideas, with desire for whatever it is that she truly loves.”

— Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Maybe you know this feeling — the feeling where nothing is exciting you, where no matter how hard you try to go through the motions, joy just isn’t showing up for you. 

You aren’t alone. 

Many of my clients have experienced this very thing.

Some call it languishing. 

I call it your Season of Stagnation — this is a season that can last anywhere from a day to weeks or months where you feel like you can’t feel connected to your highest purpose and authentic core. You are trapped in place. You FEEL as if you must settle and suffer through in this time of life because so much is out of your control — family life, deadlines, bosses, marriages, home mortgage, weather, and even your own mindset and habits keeping you feeling stuck. 

You can’t just head off to Bali and pet elephants to find your bliss. 

You are stagnant in mind, body and spirit.

Thankfully, I have worked with women climbing out of this season for more than a decade and the solution is always to reconnect with yourself.

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Before I pivoted my business in late 2020, I had fallen into a serious creative rut and a stagnant season.

Nothing excited me.

Nothing brought passion.

Nothing allowed joy to awake inside of me.

I had lost the fire in my belly for life and, more importantly, my creative work — which is in all seriousness my highest order of self-care.

Why Bother doing anything?

When we are stuck in a stagnant season, there is a lot going on — much of which we can’t see because we are in the weeds of our own stories and lives. The antidote to snapping out of a stagnant season is often the opposite of what we choose to do. 

For my new coaching clients, there is a very serious and concerning pattern of hiding and caving off when a stagnant season strikes — which only aggravates and perpetuates stagnancy.

For me, it’s something similar — I stop creating from my intuition and go quiet. And as a creative soul and entrepreneur this is the worst thing I can do for myself and my work.  

At my worst, I had a whole lot of “why bother,” which my colleague Jen Louden talks about in her book, Why Bother.

  • Why bother writing if no one will see it.
  • Why bother sharing if no one is going to sign up for things.
  • Why bother creating new programs if only a few are going to experience it.

And, as a creative who didn’t want to create I began to feel pretty resentful and trapped in the Land of Bitter and Sour.

That attitude, I recently discovered, was rooted in being out of alignment with my true self and soul.

  • I hadn’t realized I reached creative burnout after eight full years of running a 24/7 membership community for which I created 80 workbooks all around the same dozen or so topics related to motherhood and family life. 
  • I hadn’t realized I would outgrow my own business.
  • I hadn’t realized I needed to uplevel my own coaching program in order to keep myself engaged and interested in my own work.
  • I didn’t know any of that until I threw the backpack over the wall and trusted myself and had faith that a new thing would be torn if I just let go of the old.

How to Know if You Are in a Season of Stagnation

For eight years, I was writing and coaching about one part of my life — motherhood and wellbeing.

But there was so much more to me — particularly my passion for business and creativity and how I wake up each day on a mission to help women shine and take up space.

When we are doing work that feels limiting we are playing too small for what we are capable of and not serving in our highest possible power.

Here’s several signs I have experienced and my clients have experienced that prove you may be out of alignment:

  • Everything feels meh. You go through the motions of your life and work but something is missing: Spark. Passion. Joy.
  • Energy is zapped. You feel unmotivated and uninspired to take action.
  • Disconnection is rampant. You feel a disconnect to yourself and to others and you feel yourself pulling away when you know you need to move toward.
  • Mediocrity moves in. You aren’t doing your best work. You feel like you are holding back or hiding.
  • You’re in the Land of Bitter and Sour. Yep. You feel resentful likely from overworking and over doing while feeling underpaid and underappreciated.

Expanding Into A New Season of Possibility — and Finding Your Yes

Climbing out of a Season of Stagnation is less about doing more and absolutely about going quiet and listening to yourself.

In fact, the busier you are the longer your season may last.

And, of course, you also need to be willing to try to find a way out. If you are in denial, you will find it hard to create a new path of possibility.

The key, I have found, is going quiet and asking yourself powerful questions – and then listening for the answers — until the right next move shows up for you.

When you find Your Yes Project! — or your Brave Yes Leap — everything shifts and changes.

A Brave Yes is a clear move toward feeling more alignment, more abundance, more authenticity and toward audacious belief in yourself and your self-worth.

I see this with my clients every week. 

  • A YES Project!, goal or shift in how we live can often be the one thing that brings you back alive. 
  • A solid Yes Project! snaps you back to what is real and true for you.
  • And, a Brave Yes is going to bring you back to yourself — your authentic self. It awakens your joy and opens up feelings of hope and inspiration — vital for wellbeing and happiness.

As soon as I let go of my old business model and created space for something new — my creativity was set ablaze. There was no end to my list of possibilities on what I could create, write, make or build.

Suddenly, so many ideas rose up and became possible — some ideas were Brave Yeses and others were just YES Projects.

The ideas are still endless — if not overwhelming at times.

Of course I know all this now — and this is why I am SO passionate about helping other women entrepreneurs and changemakers find your Brave Yes — or Yes! Project — so you can know what it feels like to live and work in alignment with your values, strengths and passions.

If you are realizing that you are, indeed, in a Season of Stagnation — let’s chat. I have a decade worth of tools to help you find the capacity, the courage and the confidence to find your Brave Yes goal AND make it happen with consistency and compassion. I offer FREE coaching discovery calls to anyone who is considering hiring a coach so you can see if we’re a good fit. Learn more and schedule here.

Lead more Courageously by asking Yourself This Powerful Question

Lead more Courageously by asking Yourself This Powerful Question

“Those who stand for nothing, fall for anything.” — Alexander Hamilton

Silence is violence, we say.

Speak up and let your voice be heard, we say.

These days we tend to wear our hearts on our sleeves and what we believe, what we stand for and what we are all about is everywhere.

But it’s also a result of following what others are saying, what others are doing.

I want to dive into this a bit more because choosing is hard — and essential.

And it’s essential if you want to lead more courageously — and make a bigger impact.

And do you even have to choose?

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What do you stand for?

Take a moment to really think about that question.

  • If you are an entrepreneur or small biz owner like I am — knowing what you stand for is essential and will impact your business. But you should also know what you don’t stand for so you don’t end up chasing too many shiny objects. I always work with my female founder clients on the art of saying no — so we can make room for the Brave yeses. We have to clear the field — our energy field and life field — to make space for what we do stand for.
  • If you are a leader or changemaker in your industry and you have had some ideas of what you stand for but don’t know what to do with it because corporate or government culture is getting in your way … know that you have so much more power than you think. Living your purpose and letting what you stand for doesn’t have to be a flaming hot cheeto in the room. You can be quiet and subtle — unless you are ready to uplevel and do something bigger in your life or career. Then that’s where good career coaching or life coaching can help you. Quiet and powerful is possible.
  • If you are a creative person who wants to put your creative passion on the front burner of your life and you aren’t sure what that looks like yet … then I encourage you to play with your purpose and your passion in creative ways. The best artists and writers and creatives aren’t overthinking and putting too much time into planning. They are just doing the messy work of being imperfect.

What it Means to Lead more Courageously

When I started my first real blog — Awesomely Awake — my mission then — as is my mission now — was to help the world wake up. It has since fallen so asleep I’ve lost hope on what is possible for true mindfulness and presence practices — which I still use very much in my coaching work because I am a forever fan.

My life word is in fact AWAKE. But the purpose behind the blog and the coaching work I did back then was to wake people up. I was so tired of seeing people walking around like zombies on their phones and not engaging in the world around them.

Now it’s just the way it is for so many but I am still very much all about this — even if over the past year and a half has meant a reliance on tech in a bigger way than ever.

We are also seeing a movement for many to use tech less — so maybe there is hope yet. Peloton’s sales are dropping because people are going back to gyms. I stood for waking people up and that’s what I began to write about.

The movement and followers came along with me.

That eventually led to mindfulness and well-being programs for moms and the abundant mama project, which was rooted in mindfulness and spiritual practices to navigate the hardships of motherhood.

I think that by being here, listening to me, you too are awake — and maybe you are also tired.

  • Tired of hustling.
  • Tired of the daily grind of keeping up.
  • Tired of doing the same things over and over that aren’t working.
  • Tired of not thriving or flourishing but rather feeling like you are drowning in not enoughness and to-do lists that serve others best interest.

Now I stand for something else — well, lots of things — but mainly this — we need a diverse body of women — including you — to be at all the tables where decisions are being made, in the rooms where policy is being shaped, leaning in and not leaning out. We need women to show up, be seen and let their brilliance be known.

“The state of our future relies on YOU putting your genius out into the world —- whether that is in speaking up and speaking out, your ideas, your services, your art or your energy, your products, your offers, your voice.”

Shawn Fink

The world is very broken and awake women like you need to save us — to lead more courageously.

Once you know, you know. It’s like the gates of heaven opening up.

The sun rising.

The cloudy skies clearing.

It’s magical and energizing.

We don’t always know. We aren’t always able to get to clarity on our own. So find a partner to discuss this with. Share ideas. Be honest with each other. And if you don’t have a trusted partner for this exercise, try it with a mentor, coach or therapist, even.

Because .. doing something with what you stand for is likely the very key to your own well-being and happiness.

Perhaps you’re thinking … well, crap, I stand for a lot and I can’t choose and I get overwhelmed and I don’t even know how to move forward and actually DO something and take action because of that — and if that’s true, you’re not alone.

I’ve been there. Most of my clients have been there. Many times.

I call people like you — and myself — multipossibilitarians.

“Multipossibilitarians are women who stand for many possible ways you see yourself helping or healing the world.”

Shawn Fink

If only we could do it all! If this is you let’s chat. I am a master at helping you discover your strengths to match your potential.

OR, If the answer lights you up. — what are you going to do about it?

I work with creator, entrepreneurs and changemakers who are ready to uplevel or make a pivot in your life, work or business. Perhaps YOU are looking for a coach to help you design your Brave Yes around this very question is what you need for the new year. Let’s chat. I offer complimentary coaching sessions with women interested in coaching with me so we can see if we’re a good fit. Learn more here.