Learning how to accept yourself is a journey.
And I am pretty sure that journey begins — and sometimes ends — with the way we see ourselves through the eyes of our mothers.
It’s not easy to be yourself when it seems like everyone — even your mother — wants you to be someone else.
And, it’s not easy to communicate your needs. So … When we make the Brave Yes™ decision to do just that, we are stepping more fully into being our authentic selves — and living our truth — AND we are creating an energy of courage.
But that doesn’t mean that it’s not scary, or that it is easy to do — or that it’s done lightly without thought or effort. Not at all.
Today, my Brave Yes Show guest did just that — with her mother.
This episode is the first in a series called Brave Yes Voices. Over the next 10 weeks or so, I’ll be sharing different Brave Yes stories with you to highlight just SOME of the ways you can make a Brave Yes Leap yourself in order to be more fully you and to live in pure soul alignment.
My first guest is sharing her Brave Yes story about how she has learned to walk the brave middle path with her mother … both accepting herself (and not running away) and as a result being able to experience her mother differently so they can stay in relationship.
Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped hundreds of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth.
Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not have to equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.
My favorite conversation in this episode is when Karen talks about what inner and outer resources she needed in order to make the Brave Yes leap to not only accept herself but also her imperfect mother. Her decision to accept herself as she is AND her mother as she sees her — even if her mother is disappointed in her.
This episode is a powerful reminder of what it means to take the Brave Yes Leap of loving yourself and standing up for yourself as you are no matter what anyone else thinks of you.
Listen to this episode now.
LEARN MORE — Find out more about Karen on her website, or connect with her on Facebook or find her books on Amazon (affiliate links): Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020